Put that in perspective before you try to equate your struggle to his. Mormonism is not meant to be a casual part of a Mormon's life but it is meant to be the center. I am getting increasingly more resentful of the times I think he can choose us instead of residency. Until then I didn't have much of a problem with his lifestyle because I still had my freedom and could focus as much as I wanted on a career.



I even had someone tell me I should know better than to marry a nomo. These are also only the American statistics. To them, everyone is either TBM, hasn't learned the truth yet, or has some kind of personal failing laziness, desire to sin, allowed themself to be deceived by satan, etc. It is exactly what I needed.
You should both sit down and have a serious conversation about what you want and what she wants and if you can both deal with the compromise. I wouldn't end a relationship with her, just as I wouldn't deny someone a job, or refuse to socialize with someone who is a Mormon. It's called selfishness and inability to set priorities. He did however, have the night shift and then had research to do today. If you decide to marry this man, you both will find a way to be happy and have a wonderful marriage, not that perfect that we see in the Sundays at Church.
You insult my husband who is as faithful as they come and does everything he can to spend time with us and to help out. Things are very very difficult at the moment. So, one would one think, "yay, she works, has a life and friends and has avoided the ongoing loneliness and "empty nest syndrome".