But now, in addition to being a primary spouse, I'm also the primary parent. Many men have begun leaving the Church in their early twenties as the mission has become more important. Be open-minded; accept that different people have different beliefs, and that they do not always have to match with yours. If my husband and I had been dating during any of this, it would not have lasted long a few weeks maximum.
My wife is living proof that they CAN be worth it. Only the racist comments about why it was enacted have been disavowed. Maybe there is wisdom behind some of the peculiarities. Marriage is simply not an option to me there. I can second this, as a lifelong utahn this is why I simply have a "no mormons" policy for dating.
Ignore the busy-bodies who want to condemn your significant other. It is highly likely that she will pressure you to convert, and if you resist, she may resent you for being the barrier to her being sealed to her children. Unless you have some super amazing other dating prospect there isn't a huge reason to cut this relationship off now. On his days off he sleeps all day long. And your future kids will be taught that you are the reason they don't have an "eternal" family. I understand your internal conflict completely and my heart goes out to you.
He is absolutely, hands-down my favorite human being on the planet. My husband is a doc in the UK so I moved 7, miles for love. Listen to the still small voiceв. But he has been great till now.